How to start organising your wedding

Hello dearies,

As promised yesterday, I am back! If you are a bride/groom to be and you haven’t yet started organising your wedding, you’ve reached the correct post.

First and foremost, *congratulations* for embarking in one of the most beautiful journeys!

Before we dive into details and bullet points, let me just say this. Wedding planning is not only milk and honey as many advertise it, it can be as stressful as you let it be. It is very important that you receive some support through the process – especially since you are planning for both yours and your partner’s most important day. I am not going to generalise, but I heard stories where the groom wasn’t as involved (or vice versa) and during the wedding day, not only they had arguments about the catering or flowers, but they let it ruin what should’ve been the most beautiful day of their life.

And now, without further ado, let’s get things done.

  1. Get a wedding planner (paper or online)

This one here, can be skipped if you are a person who just ‘goes with it’ and doesn’t want to follow certain ‘rules’; however, my suggestion would be to have some kind of organiser to help you keep track of things. I decided to do two things:

  • I bought this wedding planner from Amazon, for £10. This one is divided into different ‘chapters’ and includes the main things that you have to cover: guests, budget, outfits, catering, venue, etc. Besides, it looks so chic!!51dI+0lrohL._SL1010_
  • Signed up to Bride Book This is an online version of a wedding planner and it provides you real-time tracking of your tasks, as well as providing you with a large check-list that will help you navigate through the things you need to do.

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As you can see, it has different sections that can be added and completed. The main reason why I am using both wedding planners is because the notebook is very practical, especially for when meeting with suppliers or when you are somewhere and you remember something – it’s quick and easy to write down an idea.

However, the online planner is very visual and helps me put together everything I need and give me an idea of where I am with planning. Oh, and it has this quirky thing in the guest list section, where you can actually add plus ones and even download a .csv copy of the guest list. I think that you can manage only with one of these, either the online or paper copy – but as I like everything in control, I have both.

2. Consider your budget 

Think about the amount of money you are willing to spend for the wedding. The amount goes up considerably for a larger wedding – however, it can also depend on the venue, catering and the music you choose. I know that the UK tends to be rather expensive, especially for venues – so unfortunately, I am unable to advise here. However, Bride Book has an extensive list of suggestions for different types of venues – all dependant on the venue.

Once you have a budget in mind – discuss it with your partner and get an understanding of what you both want. Remember, the wedding is about the both of you and your significant other might not want a five tiered sparkling cake worth £500, but rather something simple. Communication is key!  You don’t have to agree now on a specific budget and say ‘Yes, this is it! We’re not spending more than that!’ because a) you might realise that is not always the case, b) it will help you be on track on what you want to focus your expenses on.

3. Discuss the guest list

I have to say this is one of the most important parts when planning your wedding. Before having a conversation with your parents (if you decided to involve them), I’d suggest having a serious discussion with your SO. Are you both happy with a small, intimate wedding? Do you want to go all Priyanka and Nick? This is so important, because the number of guests will determine your venue, catering and every other detail of the set-up.

Personally, we went for a smaller wedding (Romanians are known, especially in the area where I live – to have larger weddings, i.e 200+ people), because we believe that a wedding should be with the people you speak to on a regular basis or you have a meaningful connection with them. I would feel really uncomfortable having to invite an auntie to whom I haven’t spoken in a decade, or having to invite my 14th cousin!

So that’s it for now – these are the main things to consider when starting to organise your wedding. I will be back with more information and details over the next posts.

Let me know in the comments section below what are you strategies or ideas about starting to plan a wedding, I would love to read them!

Stay safe.

Love,

Csilla x

Please note that all products advertised in the following posts are what I have chosen to buy/use, without any sponsoring involved.

New year, new plans!

Hello my dearies,

Firstly, let me say a very Happy New Year to all of you. I haven’t been much on the blog lately, and it seems that I have been making a habit of that! Nevertheless, quite a few things have happened ever since I’ve last posted and I felt like I needed to catch up with you all.

One of the best and biggest things that have happened so far was that I got engaaaaged!!  My dear boyfriend fiancee has proposed and now I am *excitedly* making wedding plans.  Since we have been together for so long, I have to admit that I thought that this moment will never quite arrive. But, nevertheless, I said a very big YES!

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So, as the very excited future bride that I am, I have booked myself tickets for this year’s National Wedding Show at Olympia. I am thrilled to go and try dresses, gather inspiration for everything from flowers and table decors and honestly, just to have a lovely time with the girlies. A couple of my friends from work have agreed to accompany me and this is definitely the time for me to be all girly and indulge in the beauties that the fair will offer.

Secondly, with the New Year in, I have changed also my job – still at the same company, but working on something more exciting. I have now become a Project Assistant and I am delving in in new legislation, methodologies and exciting developments for our internal platform! Last year has taken quite the toll on me mentally speaking, so having to work on something new but still surrounded by the same lovely people it will be a very interesting experience.

Now with all of this happening, I have actually started to improve my moods bit by bit and not let myself fall into the pit of anxiety and overthinking.

It feels like I have started a natural process of healing – and I am complaining.

For the coming months ahead I don’t have have that much planned – I have decided to take one day at the time and later in the year, to actually make some plans for the future (this of course excludes all the wedding plans!!).

I have got some ideas that relate to the blog as well, but I don’t want to make any promises neither to myself not to you, just yet – as I don’t *actually* know how things will develop.

But, if there is one thing for sure, is that I want to be more active and to share more of my year with all of you.

If you guys have any suggestions about what you’d like me to write more about, let me know!

In the mean time, stay safe.

Love,

Csilla x

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Wedding planning 101

Hello dearies,

It has been almost a year since I posted on the blog about my engagement – with the promise that I will be back with more. Unfortunately, I was so busy with everything, that I really didn’t get a chance to sit down and write about it.

So, I decided to take a trip down on memory lane and walk you through my journey of planning our wedding (which isn’t that far now!).

I will be providing you with tips and trick to make your life easier too – if you are planning a wedding. I am expecting these posts to be relevant to all future brides, however please note that my wedding is taking place in my home country, Romania – so I won’t be able to advise much on providers (but at least I can share the thought process with you). 

Fun fact no1: A friend from the US is also organising her wedding and I just found out that we’re having the same theme (will tell you more about it in the coming posts) and almost the same colour palette!

Fun fact no2:  For the lovely brides from Romania reading this, I will be providing a breakdown of useful tools/providers from Romania too.

I would love to hear your opinion on how you started organising your wedding. Just drop me a message in the comments section below!

Love,

Csilla x

 

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Sunday mornings and anxiety

It’s been a while (again) since I have actually sat down and written something, so here I go again with my ranting about things.

One thing, in particular.

So I’ve had to buy my tickets to fly back home yesterday, and trust me, it was no fun. Although I love traveling and I have zero issues with getting on a plane, the whole planning process before it’s a hell of a nightmare.

For those of you who have no idea what I am talking about, it’s called Generalized Anxiety Disorder and it affects roughly about 30% of adults in their life and it basically generates excessive worrying, restlessness, muscle tension, and the symptoms usually appear during minor matters, such as, in this case, buying plane tickets.

For those of you already familiar with lovely feeling, welcome aboard, I salute you!

So, back to the point in question.

At some point yesterday afternoon I decided that it’s actually time to buy my tickets to fly home ( *la best friend is getting maaaaarried*) before they got expensive af and I was already planning this scenario in my head:

  1. Check the bank account
  2. Double-check the days you’ve booked off work
  3. Check the calendar – again
  4. Open Skyscanner
  5. Oh wait, I need to re-check the days I actually will fly out
  6. Also, where should I fly? Cluj or Debrecen? Which one is closer?
  7. Is it going to be too expensive?
  8. Breathe, breathe, breathe
  9. You’re doing fine.
  10. Breathe, breathe, breathe
  11. You can get these tickets, you’ve done it a million times before
  12. Okay, fine, let’s do this.

And then, my heart started racing like crazy, my palms were sweaty and I decided to just close off the web browser. But then I realised I ACTUALLY NEEDED TO BUY THE TICKETS, so back to the matter at hand.

After carefully calculating how much would it cost me to buy separately the tickets: one way and then return compared to a return ticket and checking the landing times, I decided I will just be reckless and book the tickets, hoping that all the personal details entered were correct and that the departing and landing times match the days in the calendar.

So, one hour and twenty minutes later, my heart stopped racing, the tickets were bought. (*YAY*). I informed la bestie that pretty much is everything sorted and that was it.

I know that this sounds a little bit exaggerating to some of you, but this is how it genuinely feels to do some of the little things in life.

For some, is just as easy as breathing, but for others, it can get quite stressful.

Are any of you feeling the same when booking traveling tickets? What is your thought process? I would love to find out!

In the mean time, just breathe.

Love,

Csilla x

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Small Great Things review

True confession: The reason we don’t talk about race is because we do not speak a common language.

‘Small great things’ by Jodi Picoult is a story about an African-American delivery nurse, Ruth Jefferson, who is charged with the murder of Turk and Brittany Bauer’s newborn son.

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It is a story filled with lessons to be learned, with the perspective of a deeper understanding of the judicial system’s racial prejudice.

The one thing that I did not expect when I bought this book was the feeling of guilt that I felt once I have finished it.  We live in a world where the racial discrimination is done in plain sight and people are no longer ashamed of hiding it. I consider myself to be a person that doesn’t judge people by their skin colour or religion, beliefs or sexual orientation; but now that I finished Picoult’s book, I cannot help but ask myself if that is entirely true.

This book is written from different POV’s, just as I am used to with Jodi Picoult’s style, and the narrative is constructed in a way that connects entirely the different emotional levels onto which the story unfolds.

I have to say, although at first Ruth was my favourite character and I rooted for her every moment of the story; my perspective changed slowly. I think that Kennedy McQuarie, Ruth’s defendant is a perfect example of why it’s so hard challenging problematic for some of us to sometimes understand what people of colour have to deal with on a day to day basis.  One of my favourite quotes from the book is (bear with me, it’s quite long):

Most of us think the word racism is synonymous with the word prejudice. But racism is more than just discrimination based on skin colour. It’s also about who has institutional power. Just as racism creates disadvantages for people of colour that makes success harder to achieve, it also gives advantages to white people that make success easier to achieve. It’s hard to see those advantages, much less own up to them.

This book is a page-turner, but it’s also a book I found hard to read. Not because the language and style used were foreign to me, but because of the issue tackled.  Reading about the white supremacist couple and how they perceived race made me sick to my stomach, but also made my heart beat stronger and stronger. It’s sad to think that we live in a world where these people still exist.

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I’m not going to tell you line by line about what happens in the book, but I am going to tell you this. ‘Small Great Things’ is an eye opener; it is a book that makes you question your moral beliefs and your perception of the world, and also, probably will bring a tear to your eyes.

Pride is an evil dragon; it sleeps underneath your heart and then roars when you need silence.

You can buy the book here.

Have you read ‘Small Great Things’? What did you think of it?

 

Love,

Csilla x

I’m back!

Hi guys!

It’s been three months since I have turned off my blog and decided to take a break from everything media and writing related and so much has happened!

Hundreds of notifications on Twitter from the lovely bloggers I follow, Trump is President-elect (What?), we witnessed the Super Moon and I got a new job! (*yaaay*).

Simply put, I am glad I decided to be back.

To be completely honest with you, when I have decided to turn the blog off I thought I am going to be doing an incredible amount of research for awesome blog posts, invest in an awesome camera, and even more, invest in a more awesome self. But then life kicked in, and I just did not have the time to do all that and I had to prioritise.

So just to give you a quick update, I am currently investing more time in becoming a better self, in spending more time with the loved ones and in developing more of my cultural knowledge.

Writing this blog has been such a pleasure, because I was able to put whatever came into my mind, without being limited by the structured facade of a specifically themed blog.  I know that this doesn’t bring me extra 1000 followers every month, but for those that still read my non-sense, thank you! You’re awesome!

So that is pretty much it. I am back, with a strong will of writing more often and keeping you updated of the latest things going through my mind.

Extra information for those interested: I am open to collaborations and to guest bloggers, should you want to. Just drop me an email and we can discuss about it 🙂

I wish you all a happy weekend.

Love,

Csilla x

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Damn you, cancer

There are moments like tonight, when you learn something that shakes you to the roots and makes you wonder why some things happen. Today, another young soul has lost the battle to leukaemia and without wanting, has surrendered.

This young soul has lost this terrible battle after finding out she was healthy again, just days after she’d arrived home to her safe haven. I didn’t know Alida personally, but I followed her story on her blog, her friends’ Facebook pages, through my personal recearch of acute lymphoblastic leukemia and I had hoped she would get better.

When she returned home, I even wished her a warm welcome and I was truly happy for her.I have lost so many people to cancer that honestly, I have lost count. Alida’s story is a touching one and not the only one.

Only 22 years old, with great hopes for the future and with a burning desire to be a hero, Alida’s story has abruptly ended after battling with cancer since 2013.

I was reading her entire blog tonight and by the time I finished, my cheeks were burning with tears.

No. 39 Be a hero. Pentru a deveni un erou, va trebui mai intai sa imi dau seama ce anume defineste un erou. Plus va trebui sa fiu foarte atenta si sa imortalizez momentul deoarece se spune ca meseria de erou este cea mai scurta din lume.”

“No. 39. Be a hero. To become a hero, I will have to figure out first what exactly does define a hero. Besides, I’ll have to be very careful and capture the moment because they say the job of a hero is the briefest in the world “

The one thing that baffles me the most is this: why is it that cancer has not been beaten yet? How is it that in this world we’re living in, with so much technological advancement, we haven’t found a cure yet?

This world is losing great people, and it’s just so hard to keep hearing news like this. You know how they say you don’t need to know someone to understand their story? Well, that’s how I felt about Alida. I didn’t met her personally, we never spoke online either, but we had a common friend. I learnt about Alida’s story through my friend and ever since, I was hoping she would get better. And she did, slowly and bit by bit.

I just feel so angry  frustrated about her passing… I wish there could be more battles won than lost, more cancer survivors, or even better, less cancer to destroy our cells.

How do you come to terms with the idea that someone that young has lost this battle, this terrible fight?

Rest in peace, beautiful Alida…

 

You can read Alida’s story here: https://alidalive.wordpress.com/

Love,

Csilla

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