As promised yesterday, I am back! If you are a bride/groom to be and you haven’t yet started organising your wedding, you’ve reached the correct post.
First and foremost, *congratulations* for embarking in one of the most beautiful journeys!
Before we dive into details and bullet points, let me just say this. Wedding planning is not only milk and honey as many advertise it, it can be as stressful as you let it be. It is very important that you receive some support through the process – especially since you are planning for both yours and your partner’s most important day. I am not going to generalise, but I heard stories where the groom wasn’t as involved (or vice versa) and during the wedding day, not only they had arguments about the catering or flowers, but they let it ruin what should’ve been the most beautiful day of their life.
And now, without further ado, let’s get things done.
- Get a wedding planner (paper or online)
This one here, can be skipped if you are a person who just ‘goes with it’ and doesn’t want to follow certain ‘rules’; however, my suggestion would be to have some kind of organiser to help you keep track of things. I decided to do two things:
- I bought this wedding planner from Amazon, for £10. This one is divided into different ‘chapters’ and includes the main things that you have to cover: guests, budget, outfits, catering, venue, etc. Besides, it looks so chic!!
- Signed up to Bride Book . This is an online version of a wedding planner and it provides you real-time tracking of your tasks, as well as providing you with a large check-list that will help you navigate through the things you need to do.
As you can see, it has different sections that can be added and completed. The main reason why I am using both wedding planners is because the notebook is very practical, especially for when meeting with suppliers or when you are somewhere and you remember something – it’s quick and easy to write down an idea.
However, the online planner is very visual and helps me put together everything I need and give me an idea of where I am with planning. Oh, and it has this quirky thing in the guest list section, where you can actually add plus ones and even download a .csv copy of the guest list. I think that you can manage only with one of these, either the online or paper copy – but as I like everything in control, I have both.
2. Consider your budget
Think about the amount of money you are willing to spend for the wedding. The amount goes up considerably for a larger wedding – however, it can also depend on the venue, catering and the music you choose. I know that the UK tends to be rather expensive, especially for venues – so unfortunately, I am unable to advise here. However, Bride Book has an extensive list of suggestions for different types of venues – all dependant on the venue.
Once you have a budget in mind – discuss it with your partner and get an understanding of what you both want. Remember, the wedding is about the both of you and your significant other might not want a five tiered sparkling cake worth £500, but rather something simple. Communication is key! You don’t have to agree now on a specific budget and say ‘Yes, this is it! We’re not spending more than that!’ because a) you might realise that is not always the case, b) it will help you be on track on what you want to focus your expenses on.
3. Discuss the guest list
I have to say this is one of the most important parts when planning your wedding. Before having a conversation with your parents (if you decided to involve them), I’d suggest having a serious discussion with your SO. Are you both happy with a small, intimate wedding? Do you want to go all Priyanka and Nick? This is so important, because the number of guests will determine your venue, catering and every other detail of the set-up.
Personally, we went for a smaller wedding (Romanians are known, especially in the area where I live – to have larger weddings, i.e 200+ people), because we believe that a wedding should be with the people you speak to on a regular basis or you have a meaningful connection with them. I would feel really uncomfortable having to invite an auntie to whom I haven’t spoken in a decade, or having to invite my 14th cousin!
So that’s it for now – these are the main things to consider when starting to organise your wedding. I will be back with more information and details over the next posts.
Let me know in the comments section below what are you strategies or ideas about starting to plan a wedding, I would love to read them!
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